Me a RENEGADE, He an OPPRESSOR

Dear Darling,

You know women have suffered throughout the centuries because of sexist gender norms, regressive mindsets, and harmful dehumanizing social and cultural oppression. Ask yourself why someone, who loves you, will want you to continue being enslaved to it instead of helping you break free?

This is why:

He wants a housekeeper for his home.
Caregiver for his parents.
Cook for his family to feed.
Maid for his house to stay clean.
Free sexual provider on days he has needs.
Breeder for when he needs kids.
Nanny for when he gets kids.

He does not want a Wife.
He does not want a life Partner.

He is an oppressor

In return, all he will do is work for some corporate and get paid. Thats it! That is still what he is doing without you to sustain himself right now, and that is all he will do even after marrying you.

He will not do any chores.
He will not make your life any easier.
He will burden you with excessive and unfair responsibilities.

Marriage for him is not a partnership — it is for him and his family to get 24*7 live-in unpaid Domestic Labourer in the guise of ‘duties of a good woman, good wife, good daughter-in-law’. This is what it has been for other men, and he is no different from misogynist men.

For if a man continues to follow misogynist regressive gender roles, and continues to expect his partner to fill those roles to benefit him, make his family happy, and appease society – he is not only complicit, but he is also indulging in and carrying forward the culture of harmful toxic norms and mindset — (Patriarchy and Misogyny).

He will not dismantle the Patriarchy for you, despite him telling you that — he loves you and will treat you like a Queen, and cares for your happiness. He will not.

The reality is — he shall not dismantle the Patriarchy, for this Patriarchy benefits him and his family.

He has a choice.
And he is simply choosing Patriarchy over you.
He is choosing the millennia-old tradition of dehumanisation and enslavement of women — by forcing them into domestic servitude and free domestic labor.

That’s not love, that’s cruelty.
And he is complicit.

Unfortunately, if it’s not you, it will be some other woman — raised and forged into yet another Patriarchy pleasure — who will take your place next to him and do those same things with a smile. Because that’s what women have been birthed, raised, and trained to do — serve men and their Patriarchy. Only then are they ‘Wife/ Daughter-In-Law material’.

The people with toxic power and the people who benefit from the culture of this toxic power — are scared of those who fight against such a system of systemic oppression — especially put in place to control a section of the population. ( In this case female humans)

And you Queen, are a Renegade!

You deserve to be worshiped and loved for the Queen you are 👑 And only a King won’t be afraid of you and the space that your grace takes up.

Darling, you deserve better!
Don’t be afraid to be proud of your standards.
Express your needs and requirements.

A man who calls you “too much” or “too difficult” —
wants you to praise him for showing up with his bare minimums. He wants you to not have any self-worth or self-awareness. That way it gets easy for him to have you —without him doing barely anything.
He will neither benefit you, nor your quality of life.

You are the prize. Choose you.
Never undermine your value.

𓂀 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐜𝐡 キツネ妖怪 🦊 Namaste! I am Fiona. 𝐀 𝐖𝐈𝐋𝐃 𝐆𝐎𝐃𝐃𝐄𝐒𝐒. I am a nefelibata with a wanderlust, looking for my smultroställe. Alone, I find my soul spinning words of heartbeats and lucid dreams of wild things. Creativity is spontaneous. Writing is extremely personal & emotional. Compiling new topics takes effort & time. Every piece is close to my heart. So if you enjoy reading my posts, spread the word, subscribe, and donate. Thank You!

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