𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐆𝐈𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐄𝐒𝐒 𝐈𝐒 𝐀 𝐏𝐑𝐎𝐂𝐄𝐒𝐒. I personally don’t believe in forgiveness, I believe in 𝐚𝐜𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲.
But for some people forgiveness is an important step towards closure. Which is okay too. At the end of the day we all look to finally make peace with our past.
And once the person – that has caused the hurt – takes genuine accountability — that is the beginning of our healing. It is then we decide if the relationship is worthy of healing too. However, keep in mind — they don‘t get to choose when we should stop bringing up the past, or how long it takes for us to finally be okay with them. Because they did NOT think of us when making those choices of consciously hurting us.
Too many times in the pursuit of closure, we end up kicking up settled dusts and reopening old wounds. Because that road leads us to revisit the past. So then is giving forgiveness to the person, worth hurting your own soul all over again?
“Forgiveness is a process. Yet we don’t always need to forgive, but simply make peace with our past. So we can eventually move on.”
I feel that forgiveness happens in our own unique way. We just need to allow ourselves the time. And people who caused us the pain, shouldn’t have the power to berate us for reminding them of something they did. Instead they would be empathetic and apologetic that we are reliving the pain caused by them.
𝐑𝐄𝐌𝐄𝐌𝐁𝐄𝐑 — They are responsible for our pain, but we are not responsible for their guilt. And if the person doesn’t respect your time to heal, that shows that the person isn’t truly sorry after all!
𝐌𝐲 𝐧𝐞𝐱𝐭 𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐥𝐞 ‘𝐑𝐞𝐦𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐭 𝐛𝐫𝐢𝐝𝐠𝐞𝐬’ 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐛𝐞 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐬𝐮𝐛𝐣𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐨𝐟 ‘𝐌𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐧’.
♡ XOXO ♡